Kindness is always stylish

Whether it be in the Fashion World, the Corporate World, or just Girl World.

Competition does not breed empathy.

 It fosters the spreading of mean comments; and bringing each other down when we should be uplifting one another.

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Beautiful Surprises

You can’t plan life…it just happens.

I’ve always been about the plans…doing research, preparing, knowing the ins and outs before making a decision.

Planning out my life path.

But some of my major life changes …my best and most precious moments…have been surprises.

The first: University of Toronto

I failed two attempts to apply to University of Toronto- in my eyes the holy grail of education.

In my last stitch effort to get a higher education, I applied one last time to a different field with little faith.

In the midst of sun bathed- windows down- kind of summer…I got the letter.

It was bigger than all the others. I knew right away.

I was accepted to University of Toronto …in Mississauga.

Umm where’s Mississauga?

This acceptance letter brought me down a path I didn’t expect.

To a educational field i didn’t plan and to a place i’d soon call home.

i graduated

The Second: Life Partner

During the summer months waiting for my acceptance letter…I met my life partner.

Of course I didn’t know it then though.

I thought it was just a fevered summer affair.

 He was even warned “she doesn’t do the boyfriend thing.”

Well he proved them wrong.

He definitely took me by surprise.

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The Third: Buying a House

Me and my man had just started to have conversations about saving up for a house.

When we received a phone call. Our landlord was selling the apartment and bringing someone by to look at the place.

Noooo! We didn’t want to move.

After an astonished discussion…do we move on this opportunity? Do we put up an offer?

we did- and we got it.

WE’RE HOME OWNERS!

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My next big surprise is probably what it actually means to be home owners! EEK!

It’s beautiful where life can take you.

This isn’t what I planned out…where I thought I would be in life.

But life is full of beautiful surprises!

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My wife is not the same woman that I married | The Matt Walsh Blog

I came home today and came across this title for a blog article across my news feed.

Intrigued I took a read. It speaks about marriage and divorce. How the statement, “sometimes people change,”  is not a legitimate reason for ending a marriage. Let’s face it, you gave up. People are always changing, you didn’t choose to marry that person only for who they were that one day you married them. You choose to marry them and be united to them for the rest of your life and whoever they will be during that journey.

I think people have forgotten that marriage is about choosing a LIFE PARTNER. My grandmother, who was married to my grandfather since she was 19 to the day he passed, once told me: “love isn’t enough.” That’s because it’s much harder than that. It’s about always trying, always putting the relationship first. Your partner is always changing, so you should always be trying to learn more about your partner and how they’ve changed- never get complacent.  Sure you may know her “chapter 1” so well that you could tell it to her, but there are always new pages being written.

Marriage is just as much about the structure: sacrifice, compromise, struggle, and support as it is about the mushy-romantic centre: joy and love.

You can read Mark Walsh’s post below:

My wife is not the same woman that I married | The Matt Walsh Blog.

Ps. Here is a quote I loved from the blog:

“sometimes i can read her like a book, but sometimes she wears an expression I’ve never seen. Sometimes she smiles like the world is telling a joke that only she understands”

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Like the “Matt Walsh Blogger” I may not be speaking from a point of experience like 30-40 years of marriage. But I have chosen my life partner, and we’ve been together for close to seven years and living together for over 5. We’ve made it through doing it long distance, through money struggles, through moving twice including to a new city, and what I’m most proud of is the “growing pains” of becoming adults as me and my man surprisingly met when I was 19. What comforts me is I know that we can change drastically as people and still hold onto each other through it all.

 

 

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